How Your Expectations Shape Your Experience: The Power of Framing

In this captivating podcast, we delve into the fascinating concept of framing and its profound impact on our lives. Join us as we explore how our attitudes, expectations, and perceptions shape our experiences and the type of individuals we attract.

Throughout the episodes, we unravel the intricate relationship between attitude and outcomes, uncovering how our mindset can influence the way we approach various situations. By examining framing and the role it plays in shaping our experiences, we provide you a means to understand why we frame..

Join us on this transformative journey as we unlock the power of framing and discover how our attitudes, expectations, and perceptions can profoundly shape our experiences. Whether you're seeking personal growth, professional success, or enhanced relationships, this podcast equips you with valuable insights and actionable strategies to unlock your true potential.

Tune in to "How You Expectations Shape Your Experience: The Power of Framing" and embark on a path of self-discovery, empowerment, and positive transformation,

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wanna
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welcome to two minds today with your
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host Charlene Authority and leadership
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development and Hala an expert Community
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Builder the Pod all about best practices
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to get you noticed and ahead in your
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professional life
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hello hi Charlene how are you I'm good
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how are you doing I'm good here we are
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again this is a bonus episode we rarely
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do two in a week I know I know there's
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uh for us there's holidays coming long
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weekend for everybody
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um so well not for everybody we should
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qualify for some people it is a long
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weekend
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um but today I'm I'm really excited to
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dive in we are talking about how your
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expectations shape your experience and
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and all in the frame of the power of
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framing
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yeah so what do you what do you think
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about framing what what is framing let's
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define that first oh that's so good okay
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I and I wonder I wonder if we Define it
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the same way I would Define framing as
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like literally you're putting the like
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corners and edges like you are framing a
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subject you're setting your expectations
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you're putting it almost you know the
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opposite of think outside the box you
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are creating a box so that people know
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what's in it and and can feel feel good
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about it how would you describe it
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um I think I'd agree with that I think
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that that is what framing is right and
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because I think that people
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desire comfort in order for us to be
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creative thinkers in order for us to be
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open to new experiences we need comfort
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right we need to know what there is what
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to expect and I think that's where
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framing comes in when you create a space
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and you say go do whatever you want
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though it might sound super exciting and
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adventurous the truth is that most
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people are hesitant to walk into a
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situation where they don't at least have
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a sense of what's going on I think it
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paradoxically like helps free your mind
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to say okay this is what's gonna happen
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and I'm I'm all in for that I have
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definitely heard and I don't know if
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this is true or not to be curious that
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it is easier to be creative within
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parameters
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uh like when we know the parameters you
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can be creative and learn and be like
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okay this is the box that I this is how
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this is the edges this is where I can go
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this is what I can do and it's almost
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easier for some people to to to be
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creative if they feel like wait I was on
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a call today where it's like there is no
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limit let's go and that's harder for
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people and then people just freeze it
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reminds me of the old adage of necessity
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is the mother of invention right because
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when creativity comes about when there's
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a lack and a need for you to be able to
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think in a different way right so you
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know it's interesting I I definitely
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think that makes a lot of sense right
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yes so I would I would say why frame
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well one
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um the first thing is you're actually
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giving people the power to be creative
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and to think larger when
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um you provide confines and I I think
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two is is really the essence right we
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are setting expectations you are are
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giving the people but you're you're
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allowing people to choose whether to opt
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in to opt out to ask more questions
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absolutely and that expectation also
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gives people the ability to understand
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whether or not they want to engage and
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be involved in that particular program
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that you're putting ahead in that
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particular conversation that you're
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discussing right and people need to know
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what the expectations are I do Wonder as
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you know as I'm saying this Charlene
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whether
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um framing was as important many years
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ago as it is today because I think today
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people very much you know you need
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permission to go forward in lots of
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different ways right you text someone to
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make sure that you have a phone
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conversation with them you check with
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someone what are your pronouns because
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you want to make sure that you don't
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offend so I think framing creates that
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space one yes to be creative and two to
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know that this is the space I want to
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enter this is the space I'm allowed to
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enter you've invited me I see your
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invitation and that's the party I wanted
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yeah I wonder if what you're getting at
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is like we have more options now right
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so I just wrote an email invited people
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to something it's a virtual program I
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assume everyone knows it's on Zoom right
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it's but but someone flagged me like hey
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you need to write on zoom and I was like
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you're totally right right because let's
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say they missed that it was virtual or
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they're only half reading and now
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there's just so many options you just
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name four options of communication
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method right is it a text is it a phone
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call is it an email is it a zoom like is
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it in person and and that's just the
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barrier that has like that's just a
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modality right that is you we don't even
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know what the content is
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it's so true right so we talk about the
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importance of framing in order to think
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clearly but we also just need to frame
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so that we can actually interact with
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each other right so we know how to and
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where that space is yeah I think I think
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that really dovetails into two is is how
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can you frame properly I think like
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transparency is key in my mind
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um anytime we try and like bait and
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switch even if we don't mean to be
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baiting and switching if somebody feels
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that they weren't given on authentic
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experience that could really backfire so
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I think transparency is is key
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and I do think that that's a bit
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generational by the way for sure because
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you know this business of transparency
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like you didn't have that kind of
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expectation in the past people just
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generally out of society didn't expect
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to know everything or to have access to
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knowledge but today we have so much
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access to all knowledge that we expect
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to be to have that you know to to know
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what it is we expect that kind of
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transparency and as I'm saying it I
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would also say that this is very
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cultural as well because there are some
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cultures that there is such a thing as
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too much transparency and there is such
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a thing as like if you hold your cars
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you have a bit of respect in in an
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authority that you relay because not
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everyone knows exactly what you are
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saying but I think in America people
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appreciate that transparency and when
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you frame properly you are in essence
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giving respect to the individuals who
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you're inviting into your event into
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your program into your thought Circle
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whatever it might be
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yeah it's um and I think that goes back
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to expectations right as a society have
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we expected a higher level of
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transparency not even generationally
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right is it is it
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is we're so you know and I think we've
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talked a lot about this like everyone is
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in their Echo Chambers right and so our
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expectations is that everything I do is
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in my own Echo chamber and when you
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frame it you have to if you're pulling
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someone out of what they are expecting
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that's part of why you have to frame it
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so it's not only like we you know we
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talked a little bit about modality like
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how when why you know are you doing it
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but it's also the
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are you going to be with people that are
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like you are you going to be people that
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are different from you are you going to
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be and that could be age political
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anything oh my gosh yeah that one's
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getting a little crazy I'm listening to
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my conversation okay so you gotta frame
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it not only do you have to frame like uh
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what it is but you're saying it's
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important how you do it what you're
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talking about who the people are around
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you okay so now I'm gonna push back a
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little bit Charlene and say to you like
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is this just like a little bit too much
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of you know pandering and or you know
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you ought to be able to handle something
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without me over framing what so okay I'm
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gonna go to what happens if there's a
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mismatch that's right okay let's do that
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because so let's put let's play out your
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scenario of I've only given you hey meet
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at three o'clock right okay fine I
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already know the modality how where and
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why is confusing it's like the let's
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meet at Starbucks at three it's like
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okay which one on which corner
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um and then let's say we got the
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location the modality all of that is
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done and then you jump on a call and you
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are the let's go age right you are the
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youngest person there by 40 years and
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you did not know that going in how how
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do you feel and and I don't mean you
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because you're always comfortable in
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every situation but how would one
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perhaps feel
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um I think that you're right right like
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people get it people want to belong
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right and you want to know that you are
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where you're supposed to be and you know
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and it's interesting because today we're
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all about be yourself and be who you are
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and be your authentic self yet it
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becomes incredibly important to frame
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properly so that you know you're Where
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You Belong with the other people who are
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in that space that you need to be in
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at what I agree and I want to name this
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is exhausting it really is it is right
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the level that you have to think about
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for an engagement it could be a program
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it can it be an event it could be a
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friend outing I I remember when
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um and my husband and I were like not
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married and kids we ended up at a dinner
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with all kids and we're like oh this is
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the baby party and like on one hand it's
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like we were dating right we were we
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weren't even at the engaged married
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inside and on one hand if someone said
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like hey I just want you to know there's
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like this is who's coming we would have
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walked into it and we would have known
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instead we walked into it and we were
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like whoa what are we doing here like
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super nice the friend invited us but
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like it just felt off
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I I'm trying to like think about what
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you're saying
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um because I understand what you're
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saying and I do think that
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I do think that we need to frame the
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right way because of that right so that
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you don't have that mismatch but I also
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wonder whether it's like are we going
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too far with this essentially like the
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iPhone generation like I want to make
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sure that I'm fully comfortable you
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better frame this the right way or I'm
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gonna walk in have a bad experience
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because I feel like I won't belong and
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I'm gonna leave and I'm never gonna
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engage again like is that what we're
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afraid of I actually wonder if it's
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actually not iPhone it's Starbucks Mass
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customization right it's like I am so
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used to being able to get in a in a
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mass-produced way exactly what I want
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right I'm going to add three pups or no
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ice or no water
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um which apparently they're gonna charge
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more for if you're a Starbucks Drinker
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and uh we're gonna charge you more for
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water no water no water yes oh okay okay
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yes my dad
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for that all right but I I think that
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how I would like Circle back this whole
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thing is
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are we getting too micro are we getting
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to uh yes maybe and if your results is
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that you want people to have a better
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experience then these are things you
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have to think about right if you want to
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do what you want to do when you want to
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do it and whoever comes comes and it's
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not a long-term engagement right you're
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not trying to engage people over a long
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period of time and they hate it okay
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that's fine I think that I think that
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the more explaining you do for the other
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person the more forgiveness you buy
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yourself right if they said to us okay
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hey just so you know there's gonna be
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like five babies at this dinner we've
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been like okay and then we chose to go
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knowing there was going to be five
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babies at this dinner and that's on us
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now right like that's us and like we
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maybe would be like oh baby Shabbat that
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was cute as opposed to be like baby why
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were we invited right and I think uh
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Shabbat is a Friday night dinner sorry
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this is a Friday night dinner experience
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and I I think like I think the more you
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do the more you buy yourself forgiveness
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right so essentially framing is is
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Fizz talk or effective communication
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right and why do you frame because you
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want to effectively communicate how can
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you frame properly like think about what
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you need to get done right and what
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happens when there's a mismatch you're
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going to be at a baby party when you
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really don't want to be at a baby party
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right and so in business in your
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professional life essentially every
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interaction you have requires proper
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framing
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yeah
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thank you for always uh wrapping us all
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back together and that's really how your
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expectations shape your experience and
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the power of framing
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well thanks so much Charlene it's really
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helpful when you have like they're all
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cued out from me all written down on the
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bottom of the screen so I'm gonna say
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that it's like a Cooperative effort
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right like we are a team the best that
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there is out there thank you so much and
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for everybody who's tuned in to listen
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remember learn a little bit more every
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day thanks everyone thank you am I
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butchering



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